I WISH I’D LEARNED THIS EARLIER THAN I DID

Before I get started, someone mentioned I hadn’t been sharing Wednesday Male Hotness. How remiss of me! Since I haven’t, here’s two to make up for all the other boring weeks.

Aaaand you’re welcome. So, the topic this week is all about stuff I wished I’d learned earlier. Jeez, this topic could be a long-running series since there are tons of things I wished I’d learned earlier.

The first thing I wish I’d learned way, way earlier, and it would have saved me so much stress, time and money (since it took about a blue million dollars and a lot of therapy) was there is no such thing as control. 

I know, that was my reaction too. It took me forever to learn that the ONLY thing I can control is me and my reaction to things. I can’t control other people, events, nothing. I can only control me. This was so hard for me to understand since I was such a control freak. Of course, I tried to control things because not only was I a sexual abuse survivor, but the child of an alcoholic. Controlling everything around me made me feel as though my life was under control. It really wasn’t and, until I realized this and actually took charge of ME, I lived in constant chaos. 

Once I figured this out, I tried to share it with my students, since I heard them say things like, “So and so MADE me . . .” Guess what? No, they didn’t. No one made you talk or run or hit someone, you chose to do it. I know, hard concept. Some of them got it, most didn’t, but hell I was an adult when I finally figured it out. And damn that knowledge came the very hard way.

Learning this would have allowed me to shake off so much crap earlier than I did. Thankfully, I did learn this lesson, but it just took a while.

Another thing I wish I would have learned earlier is I’m smart. I think I would have had the confidence to go to college right out of high school instead of waiting. I wanted to go, but just didn’t think I’d do all that well. My younger sister was the smart one and I was the  . . . I wasn’t sure, but it wasn’t the smart one. Yeah, but guess what? I am. I graduated Magna cum Laude with a 3.75 (I think), then went on to get a Masters. So, go me.

Now go out and see with Bronwyn, Jessica, Kris and Deelylah wish they had learned.








6 thoughts on “I WISH I’D LEARNED THIS EARLIER THAN I DID

  1. Huge lesson that so many struggle with! I wish would have learned earlier that it is ok to give up/let go. I was so totally programmed to finish what I started that I stayed in a failing marriage too long, stayed at a place of business where I was unhappy too long, kept toxic people in my life for too long…. if only I'd have learned earlier that there truly is a time, and it's ok, to “quit”. Thanks for the opportunity to vent. Love you!

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