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APRIL CHECK IN!
I can’t believe it’s the end of another month. The time is flying by so fast.
Okay, so I’ve been at my new job for 2 months and I still love it. I’ve been traveling more so that makes the time fly by. That combined with the meetings and before I know it the day is over and I’m heading home.
Sis and I have actually started exercising. I know, I’m stunned too. LOL! We’ve been walking about a mile each evening. It makes me sad that I’m so out of shape, but I am going to stick with this.
On the writing front, I’m on the second chapter of a book I started during my lunchtimes. Tentatively, the title is Unleashing the Storm and I’m really getting into it. I am still working to finish Entangled, which is the one I’ve been working on, for what feels like, 86 years now. I still love the story, so that’s a huge positive for me. It’s just getting it right. I know the beginning isn’t right, so now that I’ve figured out what needs to happen I can fix a few things and finish it up. Yay!!
And there we go, now run out and check on Bronwyn, Jessica, Deelylah, and Torrance to see what they’re up to.
I WISH I’D LEARNED THIS EARLIER THAN I DID
Before I get started, someone mentioned I hadn’t been sharing Wednesday Male Hotness. How remiss of me! Since I haven’t, here’s two to make up for all the other boring weeks.
Aaaand you’re welcome. So, the topic this week is all about stuff I wished I’d learned earlier. Jeez, this topic could be a long-running series since there are tons of things I wished I’d learned earlier.
The first thing I wish I’d learned way, way earlier, and it would have saved me so much stress, time and money (since it took about a blue million dollars and a lot of therapy) was there is no such thing as control.
I know, that was my reaction too. It took me forever to learn that the ONLY thing I can control is me and my reaction to things. I can’t control other people, events, nothing. I can only control me. This was so hard for me to understand since I was such a control freak. Of course, I tried to control things because not only was I a sexual abuse survivor, but the child of an alcoholic. Controlling everything around me made me feel as though my life was under control. It really wasn’t and, until I realized this and actually took charge of ME, I lived in constant chaos.
Once I figured this out, I tried to share it with my students, since I heard them say things like, “So and so MADE me . . .” Guess what? No, they didn’t. No one made you talk or run or hit someone, you chose to do it. I know, hard concept. Some of them got it, most didn’t, but hell I was an adult when I finally figured it out. And damn that knowledge came the very hard way.
Learning this would have allowed me to shake off so much crap earlier than I did. Thankfully, I did learn this lesson, but it just took a while.
Another thing I wish I would have learned earlier is I’m smart. I think I would have had the confidence to go to college right out of high school instead of waiting. I wanted to go, but just didn’t think I’d do all that well. My younger sister was the smart one and I was the . . . I wasn’t sure, but it wasn’t the smart one. Yeah, but guess what? I am. I graduated Magna cum Laude with a 3.75 (I think), then went on to get a Masters. So, go me.
Now go out and see with Bronwyn, Jessica, Kris and Deelylah wish they had learned.
APRIL SONG FICTION
Hello! So this month’s song is by Rob Thomas and it’s called Ever the Same. Here’s the video if you’re interested:
I purposefully didn’t watch the video because as soon as I heard this song I didn’t see a romance relationship at all. I instantly flashed to the piece I’ve been working on with two best friends. Tessa is going through some intense shit and her best friend Kenyatta is right there for her. Here’s the beginning and I hope you like it.
Now go and check out what Bronwyn, Jessica, Kris, Paige, Deelylah, and Siobhan came up with.
April Promptly Penned
If this is your first time for a Promptly Penned post it’s pretty simple. We’re all given the same one sentence and we have to create a story around it. I was a bit short on time, so I hope you enjoy what I came up with.
Now go and see what Bronwyn, Jess, Kris, and Deelylah did with the prompt.
APRIL TOP 10
Here we are with another top ten. This time we’re chatting about how to lose me as a reader. As always, this is in no particular order.
1. Unlikable characters. I think I’ve mentioned this somewhere before, but believe me it so bears repeating. If the main characters in a book have no redeeming value, you’ve lost me. I have to, at least, like the main people if I’m going to keep reading. And, let me say, if the main guy who’s supposed to be the hero is a real jack-wagon and treats the woman he’s supposed to love like shit then there’s no redeeming him. Unless you can prove he’s been under some kind of alien mind control and even then he’d better do some major league groveling.
2. Gigantic plot holes. If an author has something happen that doesn’t make sense and doesn’t explain it, I’m done. For instance, the tragically poor heroine who has a fabulous iPhone or somehow travels. How is this possible? Or someone who suddenly has some incredible skill when, you know, there’s no way. Lost me.
3. Descriptions that goes on and on. Setting a scene is one thing, waxing poetically about the scenery, a dress, wallpaper, or whatever totally kills the flow of the plot. Oh, and constantly naming fancy brands in a book is totally boring. I don’t care he’s wearing an Armani suit or his watch is some kind of fabulous brand that only the very wealthy would have. If you say it, it better have something to do with the story.
4. Mysteries that aren’t very mysterious. You know the ones where you figure out who did it the first chapter? And, yet, the characters in the book are totally stumped. I hate that!
5. Heroines who constantly need to be saved. Or, the heroine that every man in a ten mile radius wants with a desperation that borders on obsession. Both of these tropes make me toss the book. The woman is sooooo beautiful that men can’t help but try to kidnap, rape, marry, carry off, whatever and she somehow puts herself in the position to have this happen. And, each time, the luckless hero has to save her. Helpless makes me angry.
6. Pointless, never-ending sex. I read a romance for the romance. I want the couple: girl/boy, boy/boy, girl/girl, whatever to have true and honest feelings for one another. The sex should enhance or demonstrate those feelings. If I want porn, I’ll read porn. If two characters bang like jackhammers for 100 pages, then declare their love for one another, I better understand why they love each other, how they love each other.
7. An author that behaves badly. If a writer acts like a jerk at conferences, attacks others on Twitter, Facebook, or whatever else. Gets his/her followers to do the attacking. Or just generally acts like a total and complete assface then, no matter how well he or she writes, I am done. I don’t act like that and won’t support someone who does.
8. Lack of editing or proofreading. OMG! I cannot stress enough how much this annoys me. Every author, no matter how amazing (or how amazing s/he thinks he/her is) needs an editor. Oh and for the sake of the gods use spellcheck!! Poorly edited work, no matter how good the story, will turn me away and keep me away.
9. An author that steals from someone else. Okay, this is huge. And, I’m not talking about basic plot ideas: vampires, kidnapping, forced marriage. I could go on and on. What I’m talking about are the books you pick up and you know you’ve read it before or read something like it before, but the book just came out. The people who obviously lift entire plots from others, change a few things, and claim it as their own. So not right!!! If you don’t have a full original idea, don’t write a book. End of story.
10. Authors that drag out a series even when you know it could have ended 2 or 3 or 5 books ago. An author Sis and I started reading was writing a trilogy. Yeah, seven books in we totally gave up. Obviously, the author was doing it for the money since the books sold. They were just so damn boring and nothing ever happened. The series had a blue million characters and this person would spend 1/3 rehashing what happened in the last book and the rest visiting each of the characters for a brief amount of time. Nothing would ever happen. So damn boring.
Now go check out what the other ladies have to say.
Bronwyn
Jessica
Kris
Deelylah
WHAT WOULD BE THE NAME OF MY MEMOIR AND WHY?
SONG THAT MAKES ME . . . EMOTE
I love these posts because I love music. This time, instead of talking about songs we love, we’re talking about songs that bring forth an emotion. Gah!! Not much makes me cry, but a few songs will do it every time. So, here’s a few songs that make me:
Happy
“Get Back Up Again” from Trolls – I love this song!! It makes me dance every time. Oh and smile, it makes me smile while I dance.
Hopeful
“Enough” by The Mrs. – I think the song really speaks for itself and I listen to it to remind myself that I am enough.
Cry
“Beam Me Up” – Pink – This song makes me think of all the people I’ve lost.
Now go and check out what songs the other bloggers have listed. Oh and if you want to tell me what songs make you happy, hopeful or sad let me know.
Jessica
Bronwyn
Kellie
Torrance
Deelylah
TOP 10 – THINGS I AVOID
Welcome to another Top 10! This week we’re chatting about things (events, people) whatever we avoid. As always, this list is in no particular order. Also, it all doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with writing. Let’s get started:
1. I avoid plotting out a book. Yeah, I know. It’s crazy. I know, in my head, the basic plot and where it’s going, but nothing is written down, save for info on my characters. Beyond that, the sky is the limit. I’ve found that in depth plotting stifles me.
2. Going out late. I hate being out later than say . . . 8 or 9 (at the latest). I like to be home fairly early especially if I have to work the next day. Sis and I are always joking that we can’t stay out late on “a school night” and we don’t.
3. I avoid alcoholic drinks that taste like alcohol and dry wine. I cannot stand a wine that sucks the moisture from my mouth. This means I love sweet wine, in fact, the sweeter the better.
4. I avoid spicy food. I love it, but it doesn’t love me.
5. Country music – enough said
6. Books that purposefully set out to pluck my heartstrings or some kind of stupid. I want action, adventure, and love. I want my people to end up together at the end of the book. I don’t want to be left hanging with some kind of unanswered question. And I certainly don’t want either one to die. That is a total no go for me.
7. If I can help it, I avoid being out in snow. I don’t like to drive in it at all. I do fairly well, but it’s everyone else that’s crazy and can’t drive. 🙂
8. Heavy perfume fragrances. I am allergic to them so I don’t wear any kind of perfume. I use body lotion and that works for me
9. High-heeled shoes. I’ve done it, but after I broke my leg it hurts way too much. So no heels for me.
10. Writing historical romance. I’ve thought about it, but I really think it will stifle my creativity. I want to create my own worlds and have my own rules. I don’t want to have to stick to actual historical settings, rules and dates. None of that is for me.
Now go on out and check what the other bloggers avoid.
Bronwyn
Jessica
Kris
Kellie
Deelylah
Paige
Torrance
FEBRUARY CHECK-IN
OMG! Are you so scared of me? I’ve actually blogged 3, count them, 3 times this week! I know, I’m quite stunned myself. I might have to go have some wine and take a nap.
Anyway, I think I’ve accomplished quite a bit this month. I have:
1. gone back through Entangled (the never ending book) and have rewritten, added and gotten caught up so now all I need to do is finish it
2. found a new job 🙂 Yay me!! I start the 27th and am so excited
3. talk to my doctor about the never-ending depression and gotten new meds to take
4. written down 2 new ideas for books, which I’m really excited about
I think for a short month I’ve done quite a bit and I’m really pumped for March to start.
Now run on over and see what the rest of the bloggers are up to
Bronwyn
Jessica
Deelylah
Torrance





















